Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Criticism of a Dad

Baby-wearing Dad - how can there possibly be anything wrong with this image?!

I've been meaning to blog about this since it happened just over a week ago. Last Sunday my husband, Chris, took our 8 month old to the Farmer's Market with him. He usually goes to the Farmer's Market every week to get our weekly fruit and veg. Normally he would take the two bigger kids and leave Gideon with me but this week he took just Gideon (to give me a chance to get some sewing done - he's great like that ;)) He wore Gideon in the Ergo on his back which is a common occurrence around here.

When he arrived home he was really upset. I asked him what was wrong and he told me that people had made negative comments about him wearing Gideon in the sling. Apparently he was told by a number of people that Gideon was 'too low in the sling' and that he was 'all twisted'. He tried to explain to people that Gideon was fine but he continued to get comments. Normally Chris is pretty good about letting negative comments slide but the comments made him doubt himself and he actually went and checked Gideon's position in the mirror in the toilets. All fine. Of course. Chris knows how to wear a baby safely.

It really irritates me that people focus on the negatives. Perhaps people could have been more thoughtful when they made a comment to Chris - how about saying how great it is to see a Dad wearing their baby before they dive in with their critique of how he is actually wearing the baby? At least then it would have been a bit easier to take, and Chris could have explained to them that he is an experienced baby-wearer who knows how to position a baby in the sling correctly.

Chris made the comment that if he'd had the two bigger kids with him then people wouldn't have made these comments. He felt the comments were made because he looked like a new Dad out with his baby for the first time and, of course, that means that he needs 'help'. And indeed he proved that, as he went back to the Market the following week with the big kids and Gideon in the sling on his back again and he didn't get a single negative comment.

You may remember this article recently where a Dad was called into question by the police when baby-wearing his daughter. It's sad that it's becoming a trend to criticise our Dads for playing an active role in parenting our children. In all my years of baby-wearing I have never had a comment about my baby's positioning in the sling. So why do we think it is ok to do it to Dads? The traditional role of the Father is rapidly evolving as society moves forward and we need to embrace that. C'mon people, let's give Dads a break! I challenge you to say something positive to the next Dad you see baby-wearing their child in public!

Sunday, March 25, 2012

Week 12 of Craft project a week: Gone fishin'

The past couple of weeks I've been busy making a felt fishing set for my friend's son's birthday (which has actually already passed - oops!) I actually made these fishing sets a couple of years ago as Christmas presents. I love them. They're pretty easy to make (although time consuming!) and the kids seems to enjoy them too. I made one for Jacob for his birthday last year and the kids still play with it.

I had to demonstrate it myself as the kids have all gone to bed ;)

The drawstring bag and the fishing rod.

Next week will most likely be a quiet craft week as I have a bit of catching up to do with my ABA stuff and Chris will probably need to do lots of chocolate making for Easter (more on that later ;))

Saturday, March 17, 2012

Week 11 of Craft project a week: Upcycled pants

I'm working on a big project at the moment which is going to take me a couple of weeks to finish. But I still wanted to make something to put on the blog this week. I decided to undertake a project that I've been planning to do for awhile but hadn't got around to. So this week's project has been some upcycled pants for Gideon!

The jumper before it's transformation

I bought a jumper from the op shop for a couple of dollars last year. I didn't try it on at the time when I got it as Gideon was in the sling asleep and I didn't want to disturb him. Turns out it was a little too small. So instead of getting rid of it I decided to make it into a pair of pants for Gideon. It was a bit of an experiment but I think it has turned out ok (apart from some very untidy sewing because I wanted to do it quickly!) All I did was cut the sleeves off the jumper, add an extra panel in the middle (I discovered after sewing the sleeves together that an extra panel would be needed for Gideon's big cloth butt) and sew it all together. Then I added a waistband and put some elastic through.

And the finished product!

Voila! Some new, and very cheap, pants for Gideon. Using the sleeves has meant the bottoms have a very neat and tidy cuff on them!

Gideon's big cloth butt in the pants

Sunday, March 11, 2012

Week 10 of Craft project a week: Sewing for friends

Glasses case for my friend's son

After thinking I was going to have a rather unproductive sewing week, I managed to get quite a few things finished today! This week I've been making things for other people. I used this tutorial to make a glasses case for my friend's son (it's been made in slightly bigger proportions than the original tutorial in order to fit wood working glasses in).

Set of suck pads for my friend

I also made another set of suck pads for a friend - in the cute fabric that I made Esme's dress in a few weeks ago. I made a set of suck pads for my other sling too but they're made in boring black so I won't put a picture up (yes, I'm so anally retentive that I have to make myself a set of plain suck pads to match my sling ;))

I will have to get to birthday present making in the next couple of weeks as I have lots of little kids birthdays coming up and I like to give handmade presents.

Sunday, March 4, 2012

Week 9 of Craft project a week: Slippers

Some warm and cozy slippers has been on my sewing list for this week. Very appropriate too given the weather has been so bad this week! I'd been meaning to make these slippers for Jacob for school for awhile now so it was good to finally get them finished. They have been made with leftover bits of fabric I had around the place.

A happy little boy's pair of feet in the slippers :)

Now to make Esme and myself some of these too...
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